Many of us have learned to see ourselves through vicious eyes - eyes that criticize, find fault and lack, eyes that compare us to others, eyes that demean and condescend, eyes that humiliate and belittle.
Eyes that harm and injure.
These visions of ourselves keep us looking for positive reflection and then criticize us for seeking affirmation.
These visions of ourselves keep us thinking we have confidence and esteem problems, when actually we are being abused and violated.
These visions of ourselves cripple our life project, convincing us that we are NOT ALL THAT - that we are not the BEST, that we are not ONE-OF-ONE.
This is BAD ENOUGH for sure. But here's what's worse: for the most part, WE DON'T KNOW IT'S HAPPENING.
That's right! The criticism we can identify is almost always just the surface of a greater iceberg of tremendous power with insidious intent.
What is the nature of the medicine for this ill?
Developing a Loving Witness
First, a loving witness must actually SEE what's happening. We can't apply the salve of compassion if we don't know what's happening.
Second, we must STOP pathologizing ourselves by caring a narrative that says "somethings wrong with me" or "It doesn't really matter if I suffer, lose my voice, or don't flower into the magnificence that my soul carries.”
Third, we must learn to respond to this inner assault. We may have need to develop INNER BOUNDARIES - ways of saying NO to parts of ourselves.
Fourth, we must be clear about the roots of this inner vision - roots in early experience or internalized oppression. When we do this, we understand "what has happened" instead of "what is wrong with me."
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Why such a low cost? Not only because I don't want you to suffer this pain, but because your gifts and love are SO VERY NEEDED and I CAN'T STAND the fact that these gifts and loves are muted and drowned out by the violence we have all internalized.
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My hope for us all is that your beauty, power, gifts, intelligence and divine worthiness find their rightful place and the sovereignty of your soul and being are restored.
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“Dear David, your session yesterday was so brilliant!!! I had the feeling that all your ancestors spoke through you adding to your own voice.”
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David Bedrick, J.D., Dipl. PW, is the founder of the UnShaming Way — a depth-psychology approach built on one conviction: your symptoms, struggles, and survival strategies carry intelligence, not pathology. He is the author of five books, including The Unshaming Way (North Atlantic Books), endorsed by Gabor Maté, MD. He has trained hundreds of clinicians and taught thousands of individuals. Before psychology, he practiced law; before law, he survived the home that taught him everything the books later confirmed. That is his deepest credential: he knows both harms — the violence, and the denial of it — from the inside. His work has appeared in Psychology Today and reaches hundreds of thousands of readers through his essays on trauma, shame, and the witness.
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